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Why You Are Not Where You Want To Be...

Joseph Ratliff

<b>5 Star Success Guru</b>
Why do you think you not where you want to be?

There’s only one real reason, but I’m going to provide a few examples.

I will let you know that I don’t write this from a position “above” you at all…

I have made thousands upon thousands of mistakes in my time marketing and developing my own business…it’s from that position I write this to you.

Ok…let’s get to a few reasons why you’re not where you want to be right now…

Every successful business was started and developed by a “personality” of some sort. In fact, your business was started by that same person.

And that person is also the reason that you aren’t where you want to be in business.

That person is you. That’s right, you’re the only reason you aren’t where you want to be right now.

Here’s the real kicker…you actually “make up” most of the reasons that you are not where you want to be internally!

It’s true, whether you choose to believe it or not.

“Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right.” –Henry Ford

An example?

You’re working on project A.

It’s a very productive project, whatever it is…but it has some parts that you don’t like to do. Instead of outsourcing those parts (you make excuses to yourself as to why you can’t like budget and such)…you “drudge into” doing those parts of project A that you don’t like.

But, with only two parts of project A left to go…you stop…overwhelmed by the sensation “that something in that email box must be important enough to distract you, if just for a moment.”

Then that moment transforms into something bigger…as the phone rings, and you figure you’ll just answer it just this once for today…because you know you want to finish project A.

I mean, you only have two more parts to go, right?

Then another email arrives…

Then, “just one more phone call” to take…

All the while, project A seems to be slipping from your grasp.

Then, “stuff to do” has developed from the several emails and phone calls you’re taking “just this once”…and project A almost becomes history.

Then the plot thickens, another “proven money maker” enters your mind…and takes over.

Project A has now become a thing of the past…and so close to completion. Who is at fault for this big mess?

Gut check time, or as I repeat on my blog, “time to look in the mirror.”

Who do you usually blame when you get pulled off of a major project so near completion? One of the people that emailed you? A group of the phone callers?

The phone calls and emails themselves?

Really, that’s all B.S., and you know it…don’t you?

Come on now…admit it to yourself. You’re the only one who really has control over your time…I mean…you do have control of your time right?

But that’s not the real, deep down reason why you didn’t finish project A is it?

Be honest with yourself here…the failure or success of your business this year and next rides on how truly honest you are with yourself here. If ego gets in the way, you’ll fail…if you like to place blame games…you’ll fail, guaranteed.

The real reason you didn’t finish project A was FEAR. Your FEAR. Period.

As human beings…we tend to gravitate towards the path of least resistance. It’s a proven fact. We like to look for shortcuts, we like to do the least work possible to gain the most results, etc… etc…

If you dispute that about yourself, stop reading this post right now, I don’t want you to “waste your time” on the serious education coming up. Besides, you have magic bullets to keep searching for…right?

Onward…

So, since humans tend to seek the path of least resistance, that would mean if we encounter resistance, we seek relief from that resistance right?

Go ahead and let your logic kick in here…it’s ok.

Fear is that resistance manifesting itself, it’s your body’s way of preparing you for the work or situation to come.

You had a decision to make when working on project A above.

(By the way, we have ALL had a “project A” in our business careers, so don’t use the excuse that this doesn’t apply to you)

You could have decided that NOTHING would distract you from completing it.

(And you know as well as I do we have enough potential distractions these days, right?)

In this particular example, you decided to “just allow that phone call/email” to distract you for only a moment.

That was FEAR doing its dirty work.

You might be asking yourself… “What the heck would I be afraid of? I mean, I was so close to finishing project A…and so close to making money…why would I be afraid to finish it?”

We’ll use an e-book as an example…

Let’s say the last two parts of project A were the last chapter…then the final edit of the e-book, before “putting it out there” for sale. I am assuming for this example that the sales letter is done, and all of the marketing is in place (except for initial testing of course).

In this case…your FEAR would possibly be stemming from “putting it out there”, and facing possible scrutiny of your work…or the possibility of your marketing starting out as a complete failure in initial testing.

Here’s the bottom line about FEAR…

—-> The successful business-builders get over it and embrace FEAR…

…the failing business builders don’t get over it…and instead let FEAR destroy their business.

Sit down right now, remove all distractions right now, and really let that statement sink in right now.

Think about how it has already impacted your business up to this point, then think about how it will impact your business in the future…think about it all.

I’ll wait.

You haven’t done it yet…no way.

Come on, I am not going to cover any more until you actually do this.

Did you really sit down and let it sink in yet? Did you really absorb the power of that statement as it applies to your business-building?

If you actually did…congratulations, you probably will be part of the first “embracing” group and hopefully after reading this post, you will be even more successful.

If you didn’t…

…stop reading right now…this was the most simple of exercises, I didn’t ask you to do too much (did I?)…but yet you let something “get in the way” of actually doing something that could make you millions of dollars (literally).

I don’t care what it was that got in the way, it really doesn’t matter…you simply need to work on whatever that is first before you attempt to build businesses (it could have been ego, thinking you “knew that already”, etc…).

If you didn’t stop and think about the statement above and its implication on your business…you still have another chance, because I am not right there hovering over your shoulder.

So get to it. The future of your business depends on it.

Until 2010, have a great holiday my friends at 5-Star Forums :D

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Joe you just amaze me with these articles. Always so dead on!

Now everyone knows why we crowned you with the title "5 Star Success Guru!" :)

Just got back in the office and need to switch computers and catch up on a couple things.
Then this is going to be another Joseph special added to the 5 Star Hall of Fame!

I'm sure anyone who really reads this will be able to relate if they are honest with themselves.

Thanks so much for your words of wisdom!
 
I'm honored to be included in the "Hall" once more. This will probably be my last longer post until 2010, so I wanted to make it a good one. I hope it helps someone start 2010 with a new perspective. :D
 
What a great post! Since I have been in affiliate marketing I have been great at starting projects but not necessarily finishing them. I have about 5 or 6 websites actively going but I know I should be concentrating on just one.

My fear is that if I spend all of my time on Project A and it turns out not to be profitable then I have wasted several months.

My current way of doing things is to work on a few projects and then when one starts to take off I will focus completely on that one. How does that sound?
 
What a great post! Since I have been in affiliate marketing I have been great at starting projects but not necessarily finishing them. I have about 5 or 6 websites actively going but I know I should be concentrating on just one.

My fear is that if I spend all of my time on Project A and it turns out not to be profitable then I have wasted several months.

My current way of doing things is to work on a few projects and then when one starts to take off I will focus completely on that one. How does that sound?

I usually present this visually, like one on one in my coaching sessions...so please bear with me... :D

If you have 9 units of time, and 3 projects that you want to accomplish (project A, B, and C), lets assume it takes 3 units of time to complete each one... here's what the 2 approaches would look like...

One approach is to "juggle" projects...like you're saying Dr. Marie...

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Where at the end of 9 units of time you've finished all 3 projects, and possibly in money at all 3...

Or...

The other is to do one project at a time until completion...
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And knowing whether or not A is making money at time unit 3, knowing whether or not B is making money at time unit 6, and finally knowing whether or not project C is making money at time unit 9.

So...

Take 9 units to find the answer once you finish all 3, or know each one will fail/succeed at 3 units...your choice ;)

I think I would like to know sooner. :)

The bottom line here is, you cannot devote the focus needed to make even one project successful if you have 3 or more going at the same time. The best businesses in the world are built on failures...but Bill Gates wasn't trying to build another company while building Microsoft, even when it was failing early on. ;)

Hope that helps.
 
Joseph you are amazing!

But now...Grrrr...I have to decide which project to focus on.

Would you advise strictly spending time on one affiliate site for 3 months and then if it is not profitable moving on to the next one?
 
Joseph you are amazing!

But now...Grrrr...I have to decide which project to focus on.

Would you advise strictly spending time on one affiliate site for 3 months and then if it is not profitable moving on to the next one?

There aren't any "cookie cutter" answers to that question Dr. Marie, that part is up to you. But if you listen to your gut, you'll usually make the right call.

And here's the more "global" stuff that will help, I think...

You're going to make a ton of mistakes in the early stages, no matter how hard you try not to...you're going to have failing sites, going to invest too much in a PPC campaign somewhere on a bad keyword choice, etc...etc...

It has happened to all successful affiliates (myself included, quite a bit early on in fact)...but those failures will be worth thousands of dollars to you in education...should you embrace the "fear" inside of failing with a site and use those to catapult you to success :D
 
I'm glad this one is becoming a hit again...I really just sit down and think about what caused me to "stall" when I was building my businesses in the beginning...then write about it.

There will be more... :D
 
great read, what was I reading 10 years ago ? :)
I am a great advocate of action - don't expect perfection in the future if you don't do your best now.
 
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